Ep. 9 Breaking Free: Embracing “Want” over “Must” with David Henzel and Eduard Brink

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In Today’s Episode:

  • Differentiating between “should” and “must” in decision-making and goal-setting.
  • Examining the source of obligations and expectations: internal or external motivators.
  • The role of fear in driving actions based on “should.”
  • The importance of aligning actions with personal values and principles.
  • Strategies for staying committed to goals, even in the face of difficulties.
  • The value of setting specific, meaningful goals and the emotional “why” behind them.
  • The idea of being kind to oneself and not dwelling on minor setbacks.
  • The “rule of 100” and the significance of committing to something 100 times for success.
  • The discussion of when to give up or keep trying, the nature of perseverance, and personal growth.

In this engaging episode of the “Love Not Fear” podcast, hosts David Henzel and Eduard Brink delve into the intriguing topic of “Should vs. Must.” They dissect the fundamental difference between these two concepts and how they influence decision-making, motivation, and overall well-being. Throughout the conversation, the hosts explore the origin of obligations and expectations, the interplay between internal and external motivators, and the profound impact of framing actions as desires rather than requirements. Additionally, the episode delves into the significance of kindness toward oneself in achieving long-term success and the “rule of 100” for mastering new endeavors.

It’s much healthier to frame it as, “I want to do this,” because then I know the potential consequences, versus “I have to do this.”

David Henzel

Join us and explore the fascinating dynamics of “Should vs. Must,” gain valuable insights into how your motivations shape your actions, and discover strategies for achieving personal and professional success with love and compassion. You’re invited to take the hosts’ challenge and pick a goal you’re passionate about, committing to it 100 times while sharing your journey with us. 

Episode Timestamps:

00:06 – Introduction.

00:20 – Identifying internal and external motivators.

02:06 – The role of fear in driving actions based on “should.”

03:25 – The importance of asking, “What do I want?”

04:14 – Strategies for staying committed to goals, even in the face of difficulties.

06:26 – Balancing actions that may not be enjoyable but have positive outcomes.

07:12 – The idea of being kind to oneself and not dwelling on minor setbacks.

08:06 – Exploration of the idea of perseverance and giving up.

09:44 – The “rule of 100” and the significance of committing to something 100 times for success.

You always have a choice, and the choice is the question that helps you review, break agreements that you made with yourself and others, and choose for freedom.

Eduard Brink

Ready to transform your life? Reflect on your actions, choose your “musts” with intention, and set meaningful goals aligned with your values. Embrace kindness in your journey, and challenge yourself to do something you’re passionate about 100 times. Share your experiences with us and join our community in creating a world driven by love, not fear. Your journey begins now!

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