“Love not Fear” is one of the most important concepts we as people need to know about and live by. It’s this: “Love not Fear” means choosing to act out of love and not fear. Our actions and thoughts are driven by one of these two emotions but it is in our power to choose whether we want to be guided by love or fear.
The concept of love not fear means choosing to have thoughts, take actions and make decisions based on love, compassion, and positive intentions rather than fear, negativity, or insecurity.
It encourages approaching situations with an open heart, understanding, and empathy to foster connection and harmony instead of division. In short, it’s about making choices rooted in love and kindness, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and positive way of living.
Why Love Not Fear?
Many people do not realize that we have the choice to feel love or fear and as a result tend to resort to acting out of fear. We do this because as people we have a bias towards negativity, we are used to living in “fight or flight” mode and there is a constant pursuit based on a fear of lacking, also known as having a scarcity mindset.
Rather than accepting and embracing the situations we are in and seeking contemptment and joy, many people tend to be motivated primarily by pain avoidance, making them a constant victim.
But the mindset we choose to have shows up in how we present ourselves, in the work that we produce and in how we connect with others. And the bottomline is: When we act out of fear, we are not living our best lives. But, when we act out of love, we are.
How to Love Not Fear?
Choosing to love not fear can be as simple as flipping a switch. For many, simply having the awareness of which emotions are driving our decisions can be enough to reset the mindset.
If you know your “why”, as in your values and vision and mission in this life, and let it serve as your north star, then it becomes easy to make acting out of love part of your purpose. Starting with gratitude and counting off all of the things to be grateful for is always a good place to start.
But for those that feel stuck in even understanding what they truly want in life, well then there are actionable steps that can be taken to change perspectives.
From breaking free from the victim loop through accountability to adopting a growth mindset over one that is fixed to being mindful of the moment: all of these are methods we can put into place to silence the inner critic, increase our self-worth and confidence and to have the mindfulness to act the way we truly want to.
From the ancient Mayan wisdom shared in “The Four Agreements” to the Stoics and Zen Buddhism, knowing to choose love over fear has been a constant over the ages for those seeking inner peace.
Self-development literature such as “A Course in Miracles”, “Outwitting the Devil” and “The Power of Now” are just some of the countless resources that delve into this topic and provide frameworks for adopting a healthy mindset.
Love Not Fear and the Roles We Play
Choosing love over fear is a concept that applies to every area of our lives. From how we take care of ourselves physically and mentally to how we act professionally and the ways we show up for our family and community, everything we do can be driven by love and not fear.
Being aware of our mindset and adopting the right one works to increase our emotional intelligence, decision-making skills and the constructive way in which we interact with people.
Applying the Love Not Fear Concept
I was once an extreme introvert and felt challenged holding any sort of conference call or team meeting never mind attempting public speaking.
But when I put the “Love Not Fear” concept into play I realized that there was so much value I wanted to provide to people that was being held back because of my fear. I used to feel like I was a pushy salesman seeking to meet a quota, but when I realized that my mission was to provide value, my mindset instantly changed from fear into one of love and I wholeheartedly embraced putting myself through exposure therapy to overcome my introvertedness.
These days, I am extremely comfortable speaking to an audience because I know that what I want to share will enhance their lives.
In the professional sphere, I share the concept of love not fear relentlessly to my employees.
One such case was when a staff member of mine was preparing a newsletter that was just not making the mark. I told them so and asked them what they were feeling when embarking on this project. Sharing the concept of love not fear and reminding them to love what they produce because otherwise it shows seemed to be enough to significantly improve the content of that next newsletter.
Choosing love in how we relate to our family and in our social lives is also of vital importance for happiness and peace of mind. I used to loathe doing any sort of maintenance work but now I have turned that around by just thinking about how it will make my partner happy and benefit the home.
We can all get overwhelmed by the endless tasks in life, but making sure we take on the challenges we face and reach the decisions we need to make with love and not fear transforms most everything into a positive light. It is a concept that can serve as our guiding light for everything we feel, think and do. And the good news is: it’s all up to you!