How to Overcome Your Fears with the Right Habits

How to overcome fear with the right habits

Everything we think, feel and do are based on one of two emotions: love or fear. Choosing to act from a place of love leads to more opportunities, closer connections and peace of mind. It also leads to generating more love, in our own lives and with those we come into contact with.

Fear on the other hand is a powerful force that often holds us back from reaching our full potential. It can manifest in various forms, from the fear of failure to the fear of rejection, the fear of the unknown or of physical pain. 

Throughout history, fear has been a pervasive influence, shaping our decisions and limiting our actions. However, we have the choice to conquer these fears by perceiving them as opportunities for growth and transformation.

This, in essence, is the simple recipe for how to overcome fear through overriding it with love. But, just how our habits shape everything in our lives, having the right habits serve as the metaphorical ingredients necessary to choose love not fear. 

“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” – Yoda, Star Wars

What is Fear?

What is fear?

Fear is a primal emotion characterized by a sense of threat or danger, whether real or perceived. It can manifest in various forms, such as fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, or fear of physical harm. Fear can stem from various sources, including negative experiences, societal pressures, and internal insecurities.

Understanding the different manifestations of fear is essential for effectively addressing them. Fear can have profound psychological and physiological effects on individuals.

Psychologically, it can lead to anxiety, stress, avoidance behaviors, and a sense of being stuck or paralyzed. Physiologically, fear triggers the body’s “fight or flight” response, causing increased heart rate, shallow breathing, muscle tension, and heightened senses, which over time can have detrimental effects on both mental and physical health.

While some fear is a natural part of life, holding on to it for any longer than we have to is just not good for us. But with courage, determination, and a positive mindset, we can overcome our limitations. 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

Habits to Overcome Fears

Habits to Overcome Fears

Overcoming fears often involves a combination of understanding, confronting, and gradually desensitizing yourself to what you fear. Here’s how you can use the right habits to overcome your fears:

Identify Your Fears

Acknowledge what you fear and why you fear it. Understanding the root cause of your fear is crucial for addressing it effectively. Avoidance only perpetuates fear, while acknowledging it allows us to confront it head-on.

By facing our fears directly, we diminish their power over us and gain the courage to take positive action towards overcoming them.

Forgiveness is Key

Choosing empathy, compassion and forgiveness to yourself and others or anything puts a whole different perspective on things and releases the burden of holding on to anger.

Through regularly practicing forgiveness, we stop judging and when we stop judging, we then stop projecting our fears from the past into the future.   

Challenge Negative Thoughts

Pay attention to negative thoughts related to your fears and challenge them with evidence-based reasoning. Replace irrational fears with more realistic perspectives.

Don’t make assumptions and don’t take things personally. Also, don’t perceive yourself as special in ways that hurt you, such as thinking you are incapable of doing certain things. 

Use the Right Language

The words: Try, Should, Must, Have to, Need to and Can’t are words that perpetuate fear and negativity in our lives. They tend to carry a sense of obligation, guilt, or limitation, derived from fears in our past.

By becoming aware of and minimizing the use of these words in our language, we can cultivate a mindset of love, acceptance, and freedom.

Visualize Success

Use visualization techniques to imagine the most positive outcome, such as envisioning yourself successfully confronting and overcoming your fears. 

Set Realistic Goals

Break down your fear into smaller, manageable steps. Set realistic goals to gradually expose yourself to what you fear in a controlled manner and with the right mindset.

Choose Love Not Fear

It’s our choice how we want to feel and we can choose to want to overcome our fears because we know it will improve our lives. When we want to overcome some sort of fear, we may need to repeatedly actually do it, as in the form of exposure therapy.

But if we go into these sorts of situations with the right intentions and a positive mindset, the fear of it no longer takes the forefront of our thoughts and the emotion of love becomes the driving force.

Shifting perspectives…

Overcoming fears is often a gradual process that requires awareness, patience and persistence. It requires the insight to acknowledge them, the determination to change and the positive mindset to do it with.

These are also the components of courage, which is regularly considered to be the opposite of fear. But courage is actually doing things despite fear, because you want to and because that desire and love is greater than fear, which is how to face fear with love. 

By reframing our thoughts through the right habits, we can change our emotional responses to fear-inducing situations. Fears such as the fear of criticism, failure, the unknown and getting out of our comfort zone can all be perceived as welcomed opportunities for insight and growth.

Instead of viewing our fears as a final outcome or a reflection of our worth, we can see it as a natural part of the learning process in personal growth, in fulfilling our true potential and ultimately in finding inner peace. 

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” – Nelson Mandela